year old starr lamare the mother of three young children, is being treated at the burn center at st francis hospital. a family member says, lamar is completely covered with bandages from the waist up and is breathing with the help of a ventilator. this is a picture of the suspect.who is now wanted for attempted murder and arson. police have identified him as 22 year old dexter oliver. the victim's family says, the alledged attack happened after the pair had an argument over clothes they were washing a nearby laundrymat. starr's sister says, this was the first time he has used any kind of physical force against her. >> what is startling is that he has not been violent. mainly arguing. to be throw gasoline on her is what really got me. he is controlling, possessive. he is weird. follows her are round. he does not like her talking to anybody. i just want him to go to prison. i do not want him dead i want him in prison. >> she had only been dating him for about six months. >> had only been dating the suspect for about six - the above >> a teenage boys is shot and killed in oakland this first ho